The Johari window is a technique created in 1955 by two American psychologists, Joseph Luft (1916–2014) and Harrington Ingham (1914–1995), used to help people better understand their relationship with self and others. It is used primarily in self-help groups and corporate settings as a heuristic exercise.
When performing the exercise, subjects are given a list of 55 adjectives and pick five or six that they feel describe their own personality. Peers of the subject are then given the same list, and each pick five or six adjectives that describe the subject. These adjectives are then mapped onto a grid.
The philosopher Charles Handy calls this concept the Johari House with four rooms. Room 1 is the part of ourselves that we see and others see. Room 2 is the aspects that others see but we are not aware of. Room 4 is the most mysterious room in that the unconscious or subconscious part of us is seen by neither ourselves nor others. Room 3 is our private space, which we know but keep from others.
Which one of the quadrants do you think is the most spiritually dangerous?
Not knowing that we are doing something wrong, but that thing is noticeable to others, is a dangerous place for us to be if we aren’t willing to listen to the counsel of others and make some changes in our lives. This is what we are going to call today, “Spiritual Blindspots or Spiritual Blindness.”
I WAS BLIND, BUT NOW I SEE
We are going to start with a video from John 9, the story of the man who was blind from birth.
Watch this video up until 3:42 (about half way through).
Look for answers that would fit in each of these questions:
1. What does the blind man do?
2. What does the Savior do?
Looking at how both the blind man and the Savior interact, what does this teach us about our relationship with the Savior?
Read this next definition with your spiritual eyes and see if you can find any gospel correlation:
According to dictionary.com, a blind spot is a small area on the retina that is insensitive to light due to the interruption of the normal pattern of light-sensitive rods and cones or an area or subject about which one is uninformed, or a deadspot.
Can you see any spiritual parallels? What causes spiritual blindspots?
In President Uchtdorf’s talk in October 2014 Conference, he states, ” Many of us have a difficult time seeing ourselves as we truly are.”
It is a lot easier to see blind spots in others than in ourselves.
We are going to watch the second half of the story in John 9. Once the blind man is healed, we see the reaction from others, including his parents, leaders, friends, etc.
As you watch this video, look for the answer to this question:
What does spiritual blindness look like? Where do you see it in this story? (start the video at 3:42 where you ended earlier)
When I moved out into my first apartment with my first roommate, one personal blindspot quickly came to my attention. One evening at dinner, my roommate said, kindly, to me, “Do you know that you leave every cupboard open in the kitchen in the morning?” Shocked, I looked at her and wondered if it was true. I had never considered it nor had noticed. I responded, “I do????”. She said, “Yes.” I thanked her for the observation and vowed the next morning to be better. Needless to say, the next morning I was in a hurry, and had forgotten about our previous conversation. As I was heading out the door, I turned back to look in the kitchen, and sure enough, I had left every cupboard door open that I had used. I prompted shut them, vowing to get rid of this personal blindspot in my life.
SPIRITUALLY MINDED, NOT SPIRITUALLY BLINDED
How can we become spiritually minded in our lives, and not spiritually blinded?
Here are a few suggestions:
- Every week, missionary companionships have companionship inventory where each has an opportunity to help the other see some spiritual blindspots.
- In an interview with Elder and Sister Ballard, they shared an idea they have used in their own marriage. When they see a spiritual blindspot in the other person, the observation is worded like this, “Sweetheart, I have a suggestion.” We would be smart to listen to those we trust when they try to help us become more Christlike.
- Neal A. Maxwell, “It is left to each of use to balance contentment regarding what God has allotted to us in life with some divine discontent resulting from what we are in comparison to what we have the power to become.”
- Ether 12:27 – And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.
- 1 Nephi 15:27 – And I said unto them that it was the word of God; and whoso would hearken unto the word of God, and would hold fast unto it, they would never perish; neither could the temptations and the fiery darts of the adversary overpower them unto blindness, to lead them away to destruction.
- Enable the Atonement and disable the devil.